We all go through emotional metamorphoses; we make mistakes, we choose un-wisely, and then we move on. You are allowed to let go and to unburden yourself so that intellectual and emotional growth can take place.

I know, I know, you are terrified of change—most human beings are. Sometimes we reach a point in life where things are repeatedly not working for us. Every day feels toxic, your relationships feel toxic, so does your Love Life—your decisions are all poisoned. It is during this time that we need to listen to our inner being and let go.

You are allowed to grow as a person

You are allowed to unburden yourself and Grow. Let go.

1.You are allowed to leave a toxic love life

You are allowed to leave if they cheat—you do not have to sacrifice yourself to try and make it right. Forgive, forget, and move on. It was about them, not you. You are allowed, and should leave, if they are abusive physically, verbally, and emotionally. You can also leave if your partner is wonderful! They may not be the right one for you. You deserve passion and satisfaction. If you have to push it, it is not love. Love is not hard.

2. You are allowed to shed your mistakes

The past self and decisions do not define you. Everyone makes mistakes, the way that you move on and handle life afterwards is what defines you.

If those around you continuously bring those mistakes to light, shed those relationships and form healthier, stronger relationships. Sometimes your biggest haters are friends and family that want to see you fail. You are strong and you deserve to thrive.

3. You do have the power to separate from your addictions

You are allowed to cope with addictions to food, drugs, alcohol, technology, or anything else that binds you.

You are so much stronger than you think. Our addictions hurt our inner being, and they hurt our loved ones. Our technology addictions separate us from reality and allow us to live in a world of virtual reality that skews the meaning of life. Get off of social media and face yourself and your newfound friends and loved ones that are ready to be your support network.

4. You are allowed to leave that unhealthy friendship

Follow your gut instinct. If it feels wrong, it is. Your friend should not be toxic and manipulative. Heartfelt conversations with genuine, honest people are the best. Your friends should reflect your values and not judge you. Healthy competition between friends is normal, but it should feel uplifting and empowering, not like a requirement to keep up.

You can grow as a person!

5. You can leave behind what you want!

You can leave it behind—anything! Give yourself permission to be the best YOU that you can be. Change it, make it the new you. If your friends or family keep perpetuating you into the past by bringing up your flaws, it is ok to cut them off; their attitudes will only weight you down.

Keep in mind that change does not happen overnight. Do not give up. You deserve to grow and to be better.

“Thoughts become words. Words become actions. Actions become habits. Habits become character. And character becomes your destiny.” –unknown