Growing up, I was surrounded by different types of women: bold, modest, independent, single, wild, married, freaky, etc. Some women feel like you are supposed to cook, clean and let your man run the house. Some women feel like they can do it all cook, clean and be the head of the household. Some women are single and just wondering why they haven’t found their king.

As women, we get so tied up with the opinions that other people have about us, that we forget that we have our own opinion. Embrace your flaws and turn them into strengths. If you are confident in yourself and you keep your faith, you can conquer anything.

Throughout the years, the role of being a “Woman” has changed. According to Biography editors, in 1872 Victoria Claflin Woodhull: a 19th-century women’s rights activist and business owner was officially nominated to become a presidential candidate for the equal rights party. That was 48 years before women had the right to vote. We have women like Hillary Clinton making it even further, winning the nations popular vote for in this past election.

In the Bible John 8: 1-11, men tried to cast stones at the woman who had committed adultery. Jesus stopped them telling them, let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Although Jesus was the only man left standing, he forgave the woman and spared her.

I’ve noticed that a lot of women have a fear of being judged and not living up to the expectation set by other people, but we need to set our own expectations.

Cardi B, SZA, Brandy

I recently came across a video on YouTube, speaking about the change in time for women. We have women in the entertainment industry who openly speaks their truth.

Cardi B, often speaks about her time as a stripper. Jhene Aiko, acknowledges her addiction to different drugs due to depression from the loss of her brother. SZA, sings songs from the views of a side chick in her last album. Then Rihanna, turning from a good girl to bad girl after her domestic violence accident. More women are opening up and being themselves, and they are breaking down those walls that society build around them.

They use their voice and are very unapologetic about it. The video also spoke about how society viewed some women in the entertainment industry in the past. The video spoke about Brandy lying to Oprah about her being married during her pregnancy and Mariah Carey's appearance changing from modest to sexy. It even discussed how Wendy Williams tried to diss Mariah Carey about her allegedly breast implants. The women felt like it would tarnish their reputation if they were to be themselves and honest.

Breaking out of society's box

Today, women are stepping out of this box that the society put us in and spreading our wings. Amber Rose has a foundation that embraces women, with the mission to deliver a flawlessly executed event geared toward raising awareness about sexual injustice and gender inequality.

The Amber Rose SlutWalk aims to impact and uplift while shifting the paradigm of rape culture. According to Amber Rose, the event provides a safe, all-inclusive space to entertain, educate, and empower. She uses her platform to stop, sexual violence, victim blaming, derogatory labels and gender inequality. Amber Rose created the SlutWalk to show women that we should not be ashamed to love ourselves, be who we are and love who we love.

A quote used on her site is

  • “Women are leaders everywhere you look—from the CEO who runs a Fortune 500 company to the housewife who raises her children and heads her household. Our country was built by strong women, and we will continue to break down walls and defy stereotypes.” — Nancy Pelosi

Today, the female entertainers are showing that it takes some weight off of you if you just embrace who you are.

It’s too stressful to paint a picture based on society views, just paint your own picture, and it will be a picture of you