Depression is not fun. It emotionally drains you of all happiness, fun and desire to get out and do things. You feel completely and utterly hopeless, which in turn, discourages you from doing what you need to get better. That's not to say that it's easy to overcome depression, or that it happens overnight. Absolutely not. It is not out of the realm of possibility though. Despite your overall lack of motivation, you do have control over yourself, no matter how severely depressed you may be. It just takes baby steps, and then you slowly grow from there.

If you're reading this article, then you're on the right track. You want to change and get better.

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So with that in mind, here are some ways you can help yourself if you struggle with depression.

Take steps to beat depression

Know you're in control. This is the first step. As I said before, you do have control over your actions and what you do regardless of the degree of your depression. Knowing that you can change is half the battle already won. The people that can't cope or deal with their depression are those that feel as if there is nothing they can do about it.

Take it one step at a time. The road to helping yourself cope with depression is not quick, nor is it easy. When you're starting, it's a great idea to set up some small goals that you can reach. Never attempt to recover without a goal in mind or set your goals too high. It doesn't have to be huge. It could be something as simple as calling a friend and telling them about your day, or going to a restaurant and treating yourself.

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Then, as time goes on, you progressively increase your goals.

Get a coach to help you

Have an accountability partner. As is the case with any challenging journey you may take, never do it alone. While by yourself, you're left to your own thoughts, your own ideas, and your own downfall. In depression, you are your greatest enemy. This is why you must have at least one close friend or relative whom you can trust for support, encouragement and confidentiality. Typically, you should pick someone who genuinely cares for you and makes you feel like you matter in this world. If you don't have anybody like that, go out and make friends. Join a support group. Partake in social gatherings. Don't leave yourself to your own mind.

Confront your negativity. Depression and negativity go hand in hand, so much so that it doesn't go away by merely "thinking good thoughts" or "finding your happy place". To help with the negativity, you must think in a balanced manner. For example, this could be as simple as thinking outside of yourself.

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Would you say the things you say about yourself to someone else? Be realistic instead of pessimistic. Also recognize and accept that you are not perfect. Many who are depressed are perfectionists, and will never be the person they want to be. That's okay. Nobody is perfect. You wouldn't set those standards for your friends because it would be impossible to meet them, why then do you feel as if you could meet those standards?

These are some general guidelines on the road to coping with depression. However, if your depression continues to get worse despite trying these methods, seek professional help. If at any point it gets so bad that you consider suicide or self-harm, seek professional help. No case of depression is worth your life.

You are a unique and valuable person, no matter what you may think about yourself. You have a life that wants to be lived. #Health