A eulogy is a speech given at a Funeral or memorial service. Even though it is usually given by an minister or other clergy person, it can be delivered by a family member, a close friend, a funeral director, or someone else, preferably by someone who knew the deceased.
If it is done by someone who didn't know the deceased, information can be gathered from a relative who did know the person who died. The person delivering the message could interview family members and friends to find out some personal details about the deceased.
There are many types of Eulogies.
Therefore, be very careful to choose the right one. The speech should fit the person, his lifestyle, and the circumstances surrounding his death.
Biographical
Most eulogies are biographical. That means the speech includes snippets of a person's life. Only important parts should be highlighted, such as achievements, awards, and experiences. There is no need to talk about negative things. It would not benefit anyone for that to be included in the message.
Personal recollections
Another version of a eulogy can be personal recollections. This is accomplished by telling personal stories about the deceased. Memories are shared during the message. Therefore, a family member or personal friend would be better to deliver this type of eulogy.
At some funerals, personal remarks are given in addition to the main speech.
Tribute
The dead person is honored with the same type of tribute given as if he was still alive. The focus is on the achievements and accomplishments that those who gathered at the service knew nothing about.
Legacy
A legacy eulogy is given to remind the family and friends how much the deceased left behind.
The focus is how the deceased influenced others when he was alive. The speech is to encourage other to follow in the footsteps of the deceased.
Religious
Most eulogies given in traditional churches are actually sermons. A title and a scripture are used. Personal things about the deceased are sprinkled throughout the sermon. Not only does the audience get a eulogy, but also a sermon.
No matter what type of eulogy is delivered, the person who delivers the speech should remember two important things. The eulogy is for those who are present at the gathering, and it is given about the one who has died. It should not be about the person delivering the eulogy or about anybody else unless the information relates directly to the deceased. Keep in mind that an effective eulogy should remind the living of their own mortality.
